I-Dare-You

What Do Women Really Want?

This is a silly little story...or is it? You choose. The core of the story remains the same: it's all about choice, always, isn't it?

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question: What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The Other "I"

I have been asked, "Why I Dare You?"

Over the past few months I experienced a low-level feeling of something that could be described as "everything is fine but off one notch." Ever have that?

It's weird, isn't it?!? And so uncomfortable - like an ongoing itch you can't find to scratch! I have expressly not liked feeling that way, because it brought up all my old fears of "I'm not "doing it" right," "I'm a failure," "I can't ever do enough," and this one, in particular, "I'm not doing my life right." Add to those this one, "I don't know what I ought to be doing," and you've got a real crazy-maker.

So one day last week, I decided I'd had it with this feeling, and I was going to lie in bed or on the beach or take walks or do whatever it took to find out exactly what it was some part of me was trying to get me to pay attention to. It was as if there was this Grand Message that was so big all I could see was the molecules, rather than the thing as a whole. I needed to step back and take a bit of a distance view in order to see the whole.

I did it by pretending to be someone else who was asking me the questions for which I wanted answers. If I were myself and in my own head, I couldn't get the perspective I needed with which to see in order to get the answers.

The "Other I" asked me what, of all things, I had not done yet - that if I died right that second, I'd be devastated that I hadn't.

What is something that, if I hadn't done it or been it, I'd feel like I hadn't done my life's purpose.

Something that, if I didn't let it out, be it or create it or engender it or walk as an example of it, I'd feel like a failure of some sort, or disappointed in myself for not doing.

Whew. It was really hard. But I got it. One of the things I realized within this process was that I had done my last few years on the premise of, "I wonder if I can do it." IT being, change my life to the point where I had a steady income, felt great about what I was doing, help people get excited and inspired in themselves and their lives (through my sites and blog, with EFT, teleclasses, interviews, my PIGEES system and artwork), and create and manage an online business successfully.

I was interested to see that the real purpose was far deeper than "Can I do this?" though. Can I do this was just the entry point to something much more satisfying, but it allowed me to focus from where I was at.